An Off Topic Post about Pittbulls

I know this is way off topic, but I wanted to let my readers know about Pittbulls because there are a lot of people out there who are really misinformed about this particular breed.

I’m a dog lover. I always have been. I’ve had dogs since I was 10. Pitbulls, however, were always a no no. I swore I’d never own one, until a friend of mine explained to me how misinformed the public was about the breed. Then, one day, someone from my church was losing their home and I was asked to take their dog for them so they wouldn’t have to put it in a shelter. Being the softie I am, I was more than willing to help. It just so happened, however, that the dog was an American Staffordshire Terrier. A purebred pittbull. I was assured, however, that the dog was very well behaved. Completely house trained. Loving and sweet. I went to meet the dog and he was adorable. I took him home. That was over a year ago. I have never had a problem with him and I can tell you from experience that he is one of the best behaved dogs we have ever owned.

Mr. BPD had a prejudice against pitbulls too. When I brought the first pittbull home I got away with it by using the name of his breed rather than calling him a pittbull. Mr. BPD didn’t catch on that the dog was a pittbul until six months after we had brought him home and I finally told him that the dog he thought was so amazing and well behaved was actually a pitt.

This past weekend there was a humane society that did not have enough room for the dogs they had and there were a number of pittbulls that were going to be put down. We went to adopt one. Had it not been for my first pittbull that we got from the member of my church, we never would have considered it. We used to think these dogs were aggressive and uncontrollable. This couldn’t be further from the truth. We brought home a five month old female pittbull this weekend. And she has proven to us that our first pittbull wasn’t just a fluke. The breed really doesn’t deserve the bad name it’s been given.

The five month old that we brought home is completely housebroken. She listens when we tell her no. She adores the baby. If the baby cries she whimpers and runs to us to make sure we are going to do something about it. Today my friend came over and sat in the living room waiting for me to wake up. When I came downstairs the new pittbull followed me as I was going to let her outside and she noticed my friend sitting on the couch. She did not attack. She did not even growl. She just stood in front of me, between my friend and myself, and watched my friend with a leery gaze. I told her it was alright and I gave her a pat and walked over to my friend and the dog was fine. She wasn’t aggressive. She rolled onto her back so my friend could pet her.

The point of this post is, if you believe the stories about all pittbulls being mean, aggressive and dangerous dogs, don’t believe the nonesense. It’s not the dog that’s the problem. It’s the people who have these dogs and train them to be mean and aggressive that are the problem. My pitts are very eager to please. I assume it’s in the breed to want to please their master. If they are trained to be mean and aggressive by the people who own them, then I’m sure that’s what the dog will do. If, however, you adopt a pittbull and train it to be loving and friendly, the dog will be the best dog you have ever had.

If you are considering adopting a dog at any point in the future, please consider a pittbull. They really are amazing dogs. They are loyal, protective and very easy to train. At least that has been my experience with them. Shelters have hard times finding homes for these dogs because of the reputation they have. When you go to adopt a dog, see if any pittbulls are available. You’ll be able to tell right away if the dog is a friendly dog or if it’s been trained to be mean by the way the dog acts. If the dog is friendly, don’t hesitate to adopt it. They really are an amazing breed.

I just wanted to put my two cents out there on this topic to help put the record straight. Pittbulls are not evil, terrible dogs. They can be just as loving as any other dog and make great family pets. If you can open your home to one, I urge you to do so. There are so many that are in need of good, loving homes. It’s a shame that so many of them are put down each year just because people don’t really understand the breed.

Why You Shouldn’t Trust Child Protective Services (CPS/DCFS)

I mentioned the other day that I have changed my tune regarding CPS and DCFS. I have very good reason for doing so. They are not there to protect children like I had thought. They are there to MAKE MONEY off of placing children in foster care and adopting them out. It’s legal human trafficking and no one is doing anything about it. I’m furious.

Let me explain something to you. I have discovered through much research that CPS/DCFS makes money when they put a child in foster care. They also make money when they adopt a child out. This means that they have INCENTIVE to take your children and put them into foster homes, terminate your parental rights and adopt your child to another family. And I’m not just talking a few hundred dollars. They will make THOUSANDS of dollars for each child they steal from a family and adopt out.

I used to tell people to call CPS if they felt that their children were in danger due to an abusive ex. I am not telling you DO NOT call these people. If a crime is committed, and child abuse is a crime, go to the police. If you saw someone being raped you wouldn’t call a crisis hotline. You’d call 911. If you are witnessing child abuse, don’t call CPS. Call the police. The police will likely get CPS involved, but then CPS has to work with the police and doesn’t have free reign to wreak havoc on your family.

CPS is an unchecked government institution that abuses its power for profit. It’s sick, it’s sad and it sounds like a conspiracy theory but it’s not. It’s fact. I am doing more research on how to fight these people. What I do know is that you’ll need an attorney if they set their sights on you. I don’t care if you have to sell everything you own. If you are a target of CPS get an aggressive lawyer who knows what they are doing. It’s your only hope. If there is no way to get an attorney, then you better get ready to represent yourself and that means studying the law and understanding your right. I’m going to be posting quite a bit in regards to this. It’s going to take a lot of posts to get the information out due to the sheer volume of information that needs to be shared. For the time being understand these fundamental facts:

1. You do NOT have to let a CPS worker into your home UNLESS they have a court-issued warrant signed by a judge. They will lie to you. They will try to con their way into your home. Be polite but be firm. Tell them you would like to let them in but you can’t because by doing so you would be violating your 4th amendment protection. Whatever you do, do not let these people in unless you have no choice. If they come with police and force their way in, do not stop them but get the badge numbers of everyone involved. You will be suing them later.

2. Do NOT think that CPS wants to help you. They will try to get you to believe this. It’s not true. They have one goal and one goal only — to get your children. Children are taken out of good homes every single day while abused children are left to suffer. Why? Profit. Actually providing services doesn’t profit these people. Actually protecting children isn’t profitable. Stealing children is profitable and the CPS agent at your door is a kidnapper with a license. Nothing more, nothing less.

3. Do NOT be rude to the CPS worker. They will use it against you. Be polite but firm. Kill them with kindness but do not give up any of your rights and that includes the right to be secure in your property (your home) without allowing anyone in without a warrant. If the CPS worker insists on coming in even without a warrant and the police aren’t trying to force their way in, simply say “I need to call my attorney, I am very sorry but I must go” and shut the door. Be ready for them to come back with a warrant because they likely will.

I’ll be giving more information and more details behind how I found all of this out. Just know that I am no longer a supporter of CPS. When I was told the CPS horror stories in the past I thought for sure there were facts missing and that the “innocent” victims weren’t really that innocent. I now know better. I’ve told readers in the past to get help from CPS. Now I’m telling you to avoid them like the plague.

I’m not a lawyer and I can’t give legal advice, but this is what I can tell you from my own personal experience. CPS is not there to help you or your child. The agency is about making money and they do that by taking children away from their families.

Do NOT Trust Social Services (DCFS or CPS)

Okay, for quite some time I’ve been telling my readers to go to social services such as DCFS (department of child and family services) or CPS (child protective services) when trying to get a child out of a dangerous situation. Don’t. In fact, don’t trust those people AT ALL. They are liars. They make money by taking kids and putting them in foster care. You may think your ex or their new significant other is your enemy. You may think BPD is your enemy. I can tell you right now, CPS is your enemy and you don’t even realize it.

I used to believe that CPS was a government agency in place to protect children. HA was I wrong. CPS is nothing but a government front for child trafficking. Anyone who knows me knows I’m not paranoid. I’m not a conspiracy theorist. I believe in cold hard facts and I wish I could take back every time I told someone to go to this agency for help.

Why don’t I want my readers going to CPS/DCFS anymore? Because if you think those kids are going to end up in your home if you do, you’re sorely mistaken. These agencies want your kids in foster care. Why? Because that’s how they get funding. How much money do these kidnappers get for putting your child in foster care? It varies. If a DCFS/CPS worker is able to take your child, put him or her in foster care, terminate parental rights and get your child adopted out, they get a bonus. Yes, that’s right, DCFS/CPS gets MONEY for taking children away from their families and adopting them out to strangers. How much? Again, it varies depending on where you live. The bonus is usually around $4,000 to $6,000. Yes, someone gets paid money to adopt out your kids.

So here’s what happens. You go to DCFS/CPS to report whatever abuse your ex has been putting your children through. He or she is found to be unfit. In a perfect world, the child would go to you, right? Problem is we don’t live in a perfect world. Nope. See, the worker doesn’t want that child going to you because then they don’t get paid that nice bonus. The worker will suddenly turn on you and try to make you out to be an unfit parent as well. And they WILL succeed. Because they don’t answer to anyone. Judges roll over like trick dogs for these people. Nothing you say or do will help. If DCFS/CPS has their eyes set on your child, they WILL get your child unless you fight a very smart fight and do everything the right way. And by doing everything the right way I do NOT mean cooperating with them. I mean hiring a good attorney and making sure your constitutional rights are not violated and reporting them for everything they do wrong. Don’t sign anything they ask you to sign unless your lawyer (and I don’t mean a state-appointed troll) tells you it’s okay. Don’t let them into your home without a warrant. Even if they have police with them, tell them they cannot come into your home without a warrant. Record every single conversation you have with them and if they show up at your door grab the video camera and record every single thing that is said and done. Be polite, but be firm. Do NOT give up your 4th amendment right. Do NOT let them in your home without a warrant. The police might force their way in, even without a warrant. If that happens, get badge numbers.

And yes, you’re going to need a lawyer. Not a state-appointed lawyer. They won’t be of any help as they basically answer to CPS/DCFS. You need a lawyer who is willing and able to fight the system. I don’t care if you have to sell everything you own. Get a good lawyer. One that can and will fight for you. One that is experienced in fighting these kidnappers.

There’s more to this story. I’ll go into it later and explain exactly how I found all of this out. But if you read in my past posts “call social services” IGNORE IT. Do NOT call social services. They are not the child protection agency they make themselves out to be. They are child traffickers who answer to no law. They are the ultimate authority and they can and will ruin your life if they have a reason to do so. Unfortunately for parents everywhere, those bonuses are usually incentive enough. They don’t care about your child. They don’t care about you. They care about money and abusing their power. I know this for a fact.

So yes, later (maybe tonight, maybe tomorrow) I will explain exactly what happened and how this all came to light. I will also give you some advice in regards to protecting yourself against these people. In the meantime, stay away from them. Please for the love of God don’t let these people into your child’s life.

A Life-Changing Event

So I know I haven’t been posting a lot lately. There has been a lot going on, none of it having to do with Mr. BPD. I lost my grandfather a few weeks ago. Then my son and his girlfriend decided that they could not handle having a baby so I was asked to adopt her, which I at first refused to do but then agreed to. She has been in my care for almost 4 weeks now.

While I’ve been quiet, I’ve definitely been busy. Taking care of an infant is definitely a full time job, not to mention my other work and taking care of my other kids. I promise I will try to post more often and all of you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Thank you for thinking about me and for all of your support.

PrincessJD

Mayan Calendar My Ass

Well it is December 21 in many parts of the world and guess what? We are still here. Of course the day isn’t over, but I highly doubt that lady at Walgreens advising me to buy all the canned goods I can afford is even remotely sane. My bet? The Mayan civilization collapsed and they stopped making the calendar or they just ran out of room. I’m not too worried about it. If we die we die, but I don’t think we will. I think it’s just another Y2K scare. Good news for the companies who make bottled water and generators and another reason for conspiracy theorists to panic. It is a reminder, however, to count the blessings we do have. One thing I can say… I have a shit ton of money’s worth of Christmas presents under the tree. If something does happen, I’ll be pissed I spent all that time wrapping.

Magic erasers aren’t really magic

As I was wiping down the walls with a magic eraser today, I thought about how nice it would be if magic erasers really were magic?

What if I could erase the past 4 years of my life? What if I could undo some very bad decisions? Unfortunately life doesn’t work that way and the only thing I managed to erase was mud the dogs had tracked in and the mess they made on the walls.

Hey, there’s nothing wrong with a little wishful thinking every now and then.

And All The Christmas Ornaments are Gone

Well I went to get the Christmas ornaments out of the garage today and couldn’t find them. Apparently Mr. BPD threw them all away when he was making room for his car. All of them…

If you have children you know how precious these ornaments are to a mother. They cannot be replaced. When I asked this asshole why he would do that, he said its because I could just go out and buy more.

Not his memories. Not his kids. Not his money. Not his problem. So to him it was okay to throw them away.

I’m too pissed for words right now. How does someone do something like that and even remotely think it is ok? How does that pass for acceptable behavior to even the most fucked up person?

I’ll take my kids shopping and we will pick up new ornaments, but the ones they had made in school throughout the years can never be replaced.

This man is a jackass. He is disrespectful of others and their belongings, he is selfish and self-centered and he is inconsiderate. I regret the day I met him.

And I Was Right

Well the other day I posted it was a good day, and it was. I also posted it wouldn’t last, and I was right. But did anyone who knows the story really expect anything different? I’m working 16 hour days. He’s sleeping 12. Yet he calls me lazy. Damn me for not having energy to cook or clean when work gets like this. I guess I should work 16 hours and then clean for the other 8 that are in the day rather than sleep.

I would yell. I would get mad. Truth is, I just don’t care. His days of being able to hurt me with words are long gone. I care what he thinks of me about as much as I care what a toddler does.

A wise man once told me not to care about the opinions of anyone unless they are somewhere you want to be. I know I want to be nothing like Mr. BPD so his opinions are irrelevant.

On the bright side, people around me are seeing him for what he is. That’s a step in the right direction. His Mr. Perfect in public act isn’t holding up.

The Pain is Tolerable — Mr. BPD Not So Much

Well the pain from Thanksgiving is finally gone for the most part. Just left with the residual pain that is always there from my medical conditions. Mr. BPD, however, is acting like God’s gift to the world. He’s in a “manic” mood where I am on a pedestal and he is the most loving husband in the world. And this would be great if it weren’t for one thing — I know it won’t last. As quickly as this mood came on it will pass. I will soon again be evil. I will soon again be able to do no right. So I will enjoy the peace while it lasts. Won’t be for long but at least it’s a break.

And One More Thing…

Okay, after taking 2 Vicodin, a gabapentin, 2 soma and an ibuprofen my pain is finally tolerable. If I don’t move. Mr. BPD notices I’m not in tears anymore and asks how long company had been here before he woke up and came downstairs. I told him about an hour. He then proceeds to tell me that I didn’t wake him up on purpose to make him look bad. I’m sorry. If you’re an asshole I’m not going to hide it from the world and pretend its all peachy. But again, I’m the one to blame for the fact he looked like a lazy dick. What the fuck ever.