It’s been a long time since I’ve posted here but I’m going to give everyone a sound bit of advice.If you are in a relationship with someone who has been diagnosed with BPD and is also a sociopath or a narcissist, get out of that relationship before you get pulled under. A highly-functioning BPD individual can make you believe anything they want you to believe, and when you crash and burn in the midst of their abuse and lies and are left wondering what the hell just happened, your world will never be the same.
They will tell you they will change. They won’t. They will make promises, and will break them. They will claim to love you, but they only love themselves. These individuals are completely incapable of love as you and I know it. They care only about themselves and will say whatever it takes to further their ends, even if that means destroying who you are as a person in the process.
Not everyone with BPD is like this, but the ones who really don’t want to change but pretend they do are the most dangerous. Because they can put on a good act. They can pretend with the best of them. They can really make you believe that they love you when in the end all they are really doing is using you for one reason or another. If they claim to love you, don’t believe them. Get the hell out and don’t look back.
For those of you who have BPD and actually do want help, this doesn’t apply to you.This is for those BPD monsters who are so sick and perverse that they have absolutely no remorse for what their actions do to others, and they will hurt you. It’s only a matter of time. Once the abuse cycle starts, it will never stop.There may be breaks in between while these monsters are pretending to “change” but they never really change who they are at their core.They are just playing you like a nice deck of cards.
I don’t say this lightly but I mean it.The world would be a better place without people like this in it. If you find yourself in such a relationship, there are three things you need to do.
- Realize that no matter how scary being alone may seem, it’s a hell of a lot better than the hell these whack jobs will drag you through.
- Realize that YOU are not the problem no matter what they say. They are the problem and have been since the day they set their sites on ruining other people’s lives.
- They will not change, no matter how many promises they make They may pretend to.They may even fool you But in just a few short days, weeks, or maybe even months their true colors will show again and you will be right back where you started.
Don’t let these evil people abuse you and tear down your world and your sense of self.Stay the hell away from them. Otherwise you get trapped in a web you never saw coming and life starts seeming less and less worth living as they suck any meaning, joy, and purpose you once had away. You can’t help them. You can’t fix them. The only thing you can do is run from them.