Understanding More as We Grow Older

Posted: January 19, 2011 in Rants and Raves
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I remember how, when I was a teenager, I thought I had every answer for every wrong in the world. I thought I knew it all. The older I got, the more I realized how stupid I was when I was young.

I used to hate the way my family handled certain things when I was younger. I was all about equality and justice. I thought people should be reasoned with. I used to accuse members of my family of killing ants with sledgehammers (I thought it was a good analogy at the time). Never occurred to me back then that some people can’t be reasoned with. That some people are just plain stupid and no matter how many chances you give them, they will never change their ways or stop their shit.

As I deal more and more with the bullshit that results from my husband’s ex-wife’s behavior and actions, I’m beginning to see why some people need to be dealt with in a certain manner. Compromise doesn’t work for everyone. Communication doesn’t always help. And try as you might, some people don’t want the help you offer them.

This woman has to know she is treading on thin ice. She knows she has pissed a lot of people off. Do you think she stops her bullshit because of this? No. She continues to run her mouth and even though her kids are more than 1,000 miles away from her, she still tries to use them as pawns in a game. It’s sick and disgusting and it has woken me up to the fact that some people just don’t deserve to be handled with reason.

What happened today? She was talking to my step-daughter on the phone, questioning her about one thing after another. What do I feed the kids for dinner? What do we do with them? How do we entertain them? My step-daughter nonchalantly said that during the week she pretty much goes to school and cleans. Why she said this, I have no idea. She doesn’t clean really. In fact, I’ve never seen her clean a thing since she’s been here. She spends almost all of her time on Facebook. But she probably didn’t know what else to say so that’s what she said. Which wouldn’t be a problem, but then her mother goes running her mouth saying that we are doing the same thing to my step-daughter that she did and that WE are the ones using her as a maid.

Now, let’s get something straight. My step-daughter is far from being a live-in maid. If anything, I am too lax with her. She doesn’t have a single chore. When she lived with her mother, all she did was clean and babysit. She had no life of her own. For her mother to try to justify this just pisses me off.

I will be having a talk with my step-daughter about the things she says to her mother. Obviously her mom takes everything my step-daughter says and twists it for her own sick purposes. That, my friends, is going to stop — one way or another.

  1. Trish Taylor says:

    I have just found your blog, while searching “how to prove a mother unfit”. I am amazed at the similarities we share in life. As I am also a stepmom to a son that we now have full custody of due to the mothers drug abuse. She has since had another child and the fact that the courts have really done nothing to protect this newborn is amazing. I’m trying to find a way to deal with the situation now that we have exhausted all we can think of since we have no legal or biological ties to the newborn. Such a sad, sad world we live in where step parents have have to step up and take the responsibility of someone’s else’s child cause they do not have nor want what it takes to be a mother. But do not see what harm they are inflicting on the child/ren.

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