Is All Fair in Love and War?

Posted: January 22, 2011 in Rants and Raves
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I am having a bit of a dilemma… If you read my blog regularly, you know that I have a serious issue with my husband’s ex-wife. I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t personal. I didn’t want it to be, but it has become that way. I can honestly say, however, that the majority of my anger towards her is due to the things she has done (or has failed to do) as a parent. Her son is suffering because of her. Her daughter is suffering because of her. As a result, my husband and I are going through added stress because of her.

I wouldn’t be so angry if she would accept responsibility for her actions. But she won’t. She refuses to acknowledge anything she has done. To make matters worse, she refuses to stop her shit. And I am starting to really lose my temper. Which brings me to the issue at hand…

Let me ask you, my readers, a question. If you were in the position to wreak havoc on someone’s life, and you knew for a fact this person deserved it, would you do it? If you had the resources to make a person pay for their actions, would you?

I am not a cruel person. I am the type of woman who sees a homeless person on the street and gives them a meal. I am the type of woman who has taken many people into my home to help them get back on their feet, and then helped them find jobs, apartments, etc. I do a lot for many deserving people, but there is another side to me…

There is the side of me that obviously comes from my mother’s side of the family. This is the side of me that says, if you are going to hurt innocent people and are not going to stop your crap when you have been warned, you are going to pay for your actions.

This woman is still playing games with her children. She is still purposely doing things to piss me and my husband off, after she has been warned not to. Do I let it go, and let her continue her shit, or do I bring her world crumbling down around her? I am at war with myself right now, wanting to do what is right but also wanting to make life easier for my step-children, my husband and myself. If you warn a person time and time again, and they refuse to listen, what do you do?

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