What Brings You to My Blog?

Posted: July 28, 2011 in Misc
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I know I have a lot of readers. Mostly lurkers since there aren’t many comments, and that’s fine. If I were a sane rational person who happened across my blog I wouldn’t know what the heck to say either :-).

But honestly, I’m curious. What drives you to visit or read my blog? Does some of the information help you? Has it helped your life in any way? Or do you just feel better knowing that somewhere out there, someone is just as messed up (if not more messed up) than you are?

I’m not being sarcastic. I’m just honestly curious. If you’ve visited just once or you’ve been here dozens of times, what brought you here and what do you honestly think?

  1. Alleycat8 says:

    I simply googled: my husband had borderline personality disorder… and this came up almost immediately. Am feeling so relieved. and so incredibly sad to know what his problem might be.

    • princessjd says:

      It is a horrible condition to live with, whether you are the person who has the disorder or someone living with a person who does. Make sure your husband gets the help he needs or things will never get better. All the best, Princess JD

  2. M says:

    I came accross your blog yesterday and i have to say thank you! i was married to a man i strongly believe is bipolar/bdp/adhd.. I didn’t know! He is high functioning and in denial of his issues. He divorced me last christmas as a punishment for not reacting the correct way to one of his threats, i called him out on it… that’s when things really, really got ugly.. We have been divorced a year,he discarded me like a piece of trash yet the games, manipulation, abuse, control still continue. I love this man with all of my heart. I can’t begin to tell you how reading some of your posts make me laugh and cry -because i can identify with every last one of them. I am alot like you in personality, this relationship did more damage to me in our 4 years together then growing up with a mother with mental illness. It is a slow recovery and he keeps sucking me back in only to rip the rug out from underneath me, such a sick game for his enjoyment-my crime-loving him “as is”… Friends and family don’t understand the impact the relationship has on the non…again thank you, please please keep posting, it helps remind me that i am the sane one… Best wishes! M

    • princessjd says:

      I’m sorry to hear about your story. Stay strong. Don’t let him suck you back in. Remember your self worth. My best friend sent me an email yesterday and it rang so true. It was a picture that said “Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. If you aren’t being treated with love and respect, check your price tag. Maybe you’ve marked yourself down. It’s YOU who tells people what your worth is. Get off the clearance rack and get behind the glass where they keep the valuables.” It’s true. Get behind the glass where they keep the valuables, because that’s what you are. BPD is something that has oftentimes stripped us of our sense of self. And it’s not because we suffer from it. It’s because we love or loved someone who did. You ARE the sane one. Don’t ever forget that and don’t ever forget that you can and will do better.

  3. Harrington says:

    My story with began, I loved my my boyfriend so much but he never loved me rather he travelled with another girl to unknown destination, I was all over the internet trying to find who could help me out with my situation but no results at all or little signs, I have to admit I was about to give up on him, then one day I was making a search on a google i found [DELETED CONTACT INFO] in the internet where he had helped many girls who had the same issue with me, when i contacted him he said he will help me and just as he said after But 3 days after the the spell was done, I received an email from my boyfriend and that’s when things really changed he stopped his bad habit, We came back together and I was astounded because so many say they are the best but can’t back it. [DELTED NAME] really surprised me with his spell, i want to testify today about the seriousness of [DELETED NAME].
    Harrington, England

    • princessjd says:

      Okay, first I was questioning whether or not to even approve this comment because I thought it may be spam. But then my conscience got the better of me and I had to approve it and reply just in case you were serious.

      If you are serious, my dear, I need to give you a bit of advice. First of all, no one can perform a love spell for you over the Internet. Even if they were capable of performing a love spell, it would not be able to be done over the Internet and it would involve some very dark arts. There are no love spells that actually work that I am aware of.

      Now, with that being said, a part of this rang of something familiar in my heart. Many of us who are or were in love with someone who had BPD have felt as though we were under a love spell, not understanding how we could love a person who treated us in such a way. The truth is, it has nothing to do with spells and everything to do with the psychology of the relationship.

      With that being said, even if it were possible, do you really want someone to be with you because they were put under a spell against their own free will? Wouldn’t it be better to find someone who loved you because they actually loved you?

      Spam or not, if this story is true, you may want to second-guess your reasons for being with this man and his reasons for being with you. I believe in free speech so I approved your post. I did, however, delete the contact information from it. Because it’s my blog and I can do that.

  4. Rachel says:

    I found it due to researching parental alienation, so I started from the beginning of your blog and I am now to 7/2011. I’m curious and find any information is helpful, made me aware that I too might have my hands full. I always say I got this but sometimes I wonder if I should run not walk and stay alone for a few years…. I’m going to keep reading.

  5. Peggy O'Neal says:

    I am reading your blog as I become that person in desperation wanting to protect 2 young boys, now 4 & 7, from their crazy past life with their birth mother. As we sat in court, I experienced all the things you state on your blog. Hard to imagine but like you are clearly stating to those of us stupid enough to “think” there are laws to protect children, it is very important that we must understand just because children are so unfortunate to be born to a parent or parents that are horrible lousy parents, the courts must be convinced they are indeed, actually “unfit”.. I say past life, mainly because their father and I where able to protect them from her for the past 3.5 years after her last and final abandonment of them. The “BM” dropped them off after a day at the lake, covered in filth, hungry, scared, no diaper on the youngest, as she screamed violent threats to the father, any by-passer and the current boyfriend.

    Flash forward, 3.5 years later, as many worthless mothers often do, she has decided she needs the children back in her life. Please don’t think I state this lightly, she has done the same to 2 older children, after long custody battles and thousands of dollars these poor “stupid” fathers do not have, she has in fact lost custody of her older children as well, a total of 3 different baby daddies. Here’s the facts, here in our great state of Oklahoma, it doesn’t matter how lousy how horrific a “mother” may be, they have all entitlement to their children, first and foremost until proven without a shadow of doubt they are unfit. This mother has 3 DUI’s, 2 public intox arrests, 2 assaults including one on an arresting officer. 13 logged “guilty pleas”. She is unable to maintain a job for very long, you can guess why. She has NEVER been able to maintain her own residence but moves the boys from place to place, man to man, never providing a stable loving environment for more than a few weeks at a time. A roomful of people in hopes of keeping these boys safe and out of her custody, 2 attorneys, grandparents, father and me, and the opening statement by one attorney is “this is a very violent person”.

    This story is so long so ridiculous that I long to give up. Then I tuck 2 of the sweetest most loving smart little boys into their own beds and own room and remember the fight is for them, not us, but to give them their natural right to live their childhood like other children who have good loving parents.

    I wish to god that I would have stumbled upon your website 3.5 years ago. How incredibly insightful it is and it is so so important for many to see. Doesn’t matter gender, it is for parents that are fighting with everything they have to protect their kids. Fathers or and or Mothers.

    Thank you so much!!

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